Why is it that we often pay more attention to someone we first meet than our mate, or our family and close friends?  Why is it that the mystique of meeting someone new and finding out about their life seems more interesting than talking with familiar faces?

It is only natural in life to look for the unknown and to seek something new.  When you meet a new person, it is tempting to pursue that new relationship while letting some of your long-time relationships seemingly go on with less of your attention.  Again, that is only natural.  The interesting thing is whether or not you are always looking for something new, which will soon be replaced with someone or something even newer.

When we always look to pursue the unknown in unfamiliar people we sometimes do that at the expense of our current relationships.  Take for example, someone who is always wanting the latest electronic gizmo.   They pursue the newest release, possibly waiting in long lines due to the appearance of its scarcity.   They purchase and receive the new gizmo.   Usually within weeks, the gizmo loses its “shine” and the person goes back to face the life they may have been avoiding.

When we always pursue something “better” or “different” it may be an indication that we are avoiding something else in our life.   Maybe we have a difficult time keeping long-term relationships because we somehow sabotage them, without even knowing it.   Maybe we always pursue the latest, scarce, electronic gizmo because it makes us feel good about ourselves and we want to feel important.

Look inside and figure out what it is you are wanting out of your life.  There is nothing wrong with the pursuit of new friendships and shiny objects in your life.  However, you need to make sure that you take care of the relationships that have stood with you throughout the test of time.  You need to make sure you take care of the “objects” in your life that have lost their shine, but serve you well.

Do not ignore the meal before you to pursue something that appears on the outside to taste better.  You may find that the meal that looks better is not food at all, but rather an empty card board box painted to entice you.

In society we are constantly being bombarded with marketing, good-looking people, shiny objects and the appearance that so many others are living a happier life than you.  However, when you take off the make up and pull the object out of the packaging, you may realize that it is no different from what you already have.  Why not enjoy the people and things that are already in your life,  while welcoming others who find their way to you?

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Shiny new objects often have the appearance of providing you with a better life.  But the reality is the objects quickly lose their “shine” and become just like all those that preceded them.  Look past the shine, and appreciate the people, things, and events that you currently have in your life.  Those are the ones that can provide the most happiness and joy!

Written Fri Mar 7, 2014, 7:36 – 7:49 AM MT