“Do you see me?  I’m waving.”

“No, what are you wearing?”

“I’m wearing a red jacket and sitting near the goal line.  The camera is pointed right at me.”

“Oh, yes, I see you now.”

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What does it mean to “see” someone?  When you “see” someone are you looking at them physically, or do you connect as well at another level?  How many times do you interact with another person without really “seeing” them?

If you live with other people, ask yourself what color of clothes were they wearing today?  How did they style their hair?   Was it up or down?  What type of shoes were they wearing?

If you can answer those questions, that is only part of the process.  That may show that you were paying attention.  Maybe you are one to notice other people’s clothing, because that is an area of interest to you.  For others, clothing and hair style may not be important to you, and not something you pay attention to in others.

“Seeing” someone typically has little to do with outward appearances.  This exercise was intended to introduce you to the idea that you may not be paying attention to the loved ones in your life.   When we “pay attention” to someone, we engage with that person.  We understand what is going on in their lives.  We listen to them, without thinking about something else at the same time.  We feel their excitement when they are happy, and understand some of their pain when they are struggling.

When you feel that you know someone, that is usually an indication that you in fact are missing many things.  It is when we think that we understand, that we should be tipped off that we do not.  It is when we think that we know someone, that we should be tipped off that we do not.  As soon as you think you have all of the answers, you have switched from a state of “learning” to a state of “knowing” – and no one “knows all” in the physical world.

Take the time to slow yourself down, and truly look at your loved ones, and get to “know” them.  Understand that we cannot know everything there is to know about another, simply because we do not even know everything there is to know about ourselves.  Throw away the notion that you know everything about your mate and therefore need not listen to them anymore.  Throw away the nothing that you know everything about your mate and therefore need not “see” them anymore.

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The worse thing we can do to another is ignore them.  When we ignore someone, we are implying that they are not important.  Everyone is important, and deserves to be “seen.”

Written Mon, Sep 29, 2014 8:07 – 8:18 AM MT