When we are in a healthy, loving relationship, we give without “strings.”  We understand that the best that we can do for our loved one, is to give to them – without desiring anything in return.  It is the relationships that consists of “give and take” that can turn from love to control.

When we do something kind for our partner, with no expectation or desire to be returned, we are behaving from a place of love.  When the relationship is coming from love, both parties involved “give without strings.”  When the relationship is coming from a place other than love, each person may give with an expectation of receiving something in return – much like an “employer employee,” relationship.

An employee provides services to the company in exchange for a regular pay check.  The relationship is established as such, since the employer needs people to help with the work, and the employees need money to pay for their living expenses.  However, a marital or union based relationship cannot work like that if it is coming from a place of love.  When we come from love we understand and trust the other party to do whatever they feel is beneficial to the relationship – even if we do would not do things the same way.

Personal relationships are intended to bring happiness and joy to those involved without the need for one party to “control” the other.  As soon as someone begins to feel locked in and controlled, the relationship has shifted  away from love.  When we understand that the best that a person can do in a relationship, is to encourage the other person to be their best, we are looking to ways where we can give rather than opportunities to receive.

Let go of the “score card” you may have developed in your mind.  Let go of the need to control the details that belong to others.   Let go of your desire to control or to change anything about anyone!   Go back to love, and look for ways where you may serve.   When you do that, if the relationship is truly based in love, you will find that you both serve each other without thinking.

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When we think about the “cause and effect” approach to our loving actions,  those actions are no longer coming from love.  When we come from love, we act first, and never take the time to think about any compensations.  Let go of the mind, and follow the heart, and you will share many decades of happiness and joy with your mate!

Written Tue, Sep 2, 2014 9:08 – 9:17 AM MT