Whatever you feel comes from “inside.”  External events may influence your  emotional state and your feelings, but only with YOUR permission.  When you understand that you and only you can control how you feel at this moment in time, you will be on your way to taking responsibility for your life!

Often times we have a tendency to blame others for our “well-being” or lack thereof.  We find it easier to place responsibility for our emotional state on another.  We find that placing “blame” for our situation on someone else, dismisses us from responsibility, while allowing ourselves to stay in a negative emotional state.  After all, the ego feeds on being in a state of anger, bitterness, and hurt.  When we can place all of the responsibility for these feelings on another person, we are absolving ourselves from having any control over these feelings.

When we do something that we feel good about, do we place the “praise” on another?  We may.  Usually, when we place “blame” for negative emotional states on another, we often credit others for our “positive” states.  That is part of looking “external” for our emotional well-being and current emotional state.

We would recommend that you begin to look “inward” for the source of how you “feel” at any given moment in time.  Often times, a good place to start is with gratitude.  Stop reading after this sentence, and quickly rattle off ten things for which you are grateful.  For most people, they find that they can easily list ten things for which they are grateful.  If you had troubles doing that, you might need to do much work to connect with your “inner self.”  However, it is work that you will find is beneficial for this lifetime and beyond.

Sit quietly and attempt to clear your mind of the daily “chatter.”  Let go of the thoughts that come to your mind.  Thoughts that have to do with external things in your life.   When you find yourself sitting in quiet thinking about a beautiful scene in your mind’s eye, or playing back a beautiful moment in your life, you are in a state of peace and calm.   It is from this “state” that your inner self can communicate with you.  Have no expectations and let whatever comes to mind pass without analysis or evaluation.

When you are finished, take note of the “inner thoughts” that came to you.  Often times, it is like a dream that you may have difficulty recalling later.  What is it you need to know?  Maybe nothing came to mind.   That is perfect as well.  It often takes much practice and patience to make that connection.  Let go of all expectations of outcome, for you are exactly where you need to be at this point in time.

When you finish the quiet meditation that you began, you might find yourself having a different awareness of your surroundings.  You might find a sense of peace in your body.  Remember that state, and attempt to “stay there” as long as possible.   Also, remember that you can return there at any time.

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You are the person who gives your body permission to feel anger, hurt, and frustration.  You are also the person who gives yourself permission to feel peace, love and joy.  The question is, what are you going to give yourself at this moment?

Written Thu, Jul 31, 2014 7:49 – 8:02 AM MT