When you feel you have been “wronged” by another, it is important to let that feeling go.  The best way to do that is through forgiveness.

Even though the other person may not even know what they did that was hurtful to you, you need to understand that your feelings of hurt begin with your thoughts.  When you mull over and over again the thoughts of “hurt” in your mind, that generates emotional and physical changes.  However, the intent of the other person may be unknown, it most likely was not one of intent for hurt.

Since you cannot and will not ever truly know the intent of another, the best place to begin when needing to “let go” of an event that you perceive as hurtful is forgiveness.   You can begin by “forgiving” the other person for their actions that you perceive to be hurtful.  You can also look at the possibility that there never was an intent to harm, but rather that is your interpretation.  When you can start to accept responsibility for being “hurt” you will see that forgiveness does not imply that you are being the “bigger person,” but rather implies that a misunderstanding has taken place.

When we accept our role in the “misunderstanding” we will see that forgiveness is not about letting the other person know that they wronged us, and we “forgive” them.   No, forgiveness is about letting go of any event that most likely the other person has no awareness of in the first place.  It is more about you forgiving yourself for twisting the actions to one of “hurt” in the first place.  It is about you forgiving yourself for having negative thoughts toward the other.  It is about you forgiving yourself for feeding your ego with  those so-called “hurtful” thoughts in the first place.

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When we feel that we have been “wronged” in a relationship, we need to evaluate our own feelings and emotions.  Usually, if you look objectively at the situation and the relationship, you will find that all of those “wrongs” occur nowhere else but in your own mind!

Written, Dec 19, 2014 7:55 – 8:03 AM MST