“You don’t understand me.”
“Well, then help me understand you.”
“I’m not sure I know how to do that.”
“Well, let’s try.”
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When we feel that we have a good understanding of ourselves, we can begin to get to know others. However, many of us, do not actually understand ourselves. If we do not know “who we are” how can anyone else possibly know?
Some people may think they might know you, even better than you know yourself. This is a difficult concept, and one that does not seem likely. It’s when someone thinks they understand all there is to know about you, when you are no longer necessary. That means, since they know what you are thinking, how you are going to react, what you are going to do, then what’s the point of being present at all?
Yes, that sounds ludicrous, but many people feel they know everything there is to know about a person – usually a close loved one, such as their mate – that they quite listening. “Since I know what you’re thinking there is really no point in me listening to what it is you are about to say.” Are you thinking these words either consciously or unconsciously about someone who you “know?”
We need to let people be their own person. Let’s ask the question, “have you grown or changed over the years?” If that is the case, then what makes you think that your mate has stayed the same? Maybe in the past they would order the salad, but maybe now they would rather have a sandwich. Yes, we are oversimplifying but you get the point.
Look around today and monitor your behavior and your thoughts towards others. Take the time to re-acquaint yourself with them. Take the time to get to know them once again. You might also take the time to get to know yourself once again, or possibly for the first time. People change, and we need to allow for that change.
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It’s when we think we know someone we negate them. Let go of the need to “mind read” and let everyone speak for themselves. You might find that they have lots to say!
Written Thu, Feb 26, 2015 8:23 – 8:30 AM MST
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