Whenever we feel lonely or abandoned, we might look inside to see how we feel when we touch our inner self.  It is nearly impossible to be lonely when you are in touch with your inner self  because you understand and feel the connectedness to every living person and thing.

For example, when you are in a crowd watching a sporting event in an arena you may feel a bit alone if you do not know anyone, however, it is difficult to feel lonely because you know that you share something in common with the people at the event.

Loneliness is often a feeling that people get, when they are living alone and maybe the children have grown and moved away.  This is a natural inclination, but is one that can be deceitful if not taken care of.  It is up to you to venture outside of the walls of your living quarters and find other people who you can converse with.   Many times, people feel lonely because they do not make an attempt to put themselves “out there”, and take a risk to actually talk to a stranger standing in line next to them at the coffee shop.

People who feel lonely have a tendency to blame others for those feelings, “Johnny never calls or comes to visit me”  might be a commonly heard phrase from a mother about her grown son with a family of his own.  We all understand what it must feel like to be “lonely” but we do not need to accept this lot in life.  Loneliness is a frame of mind and is directed by the ego, much like other undesirable emotions like anger, bitterness and fear.   When you start to feel lonely the ego feeds off of that emotion encouraging you to feel sad.  It is not because the ego had ill intentions, but because those emotions are desired by the ego.

It’s easier to blame someone else for anything and everything that “happens to you” rather than take responsibility and ownership for yourself.  The ego is in the business of the “blame game” and as such encourages those thoughts and emotions.  When you blame someone else you implicitly give yourself permission to feel sad, angry or whatever feeling you think you deserve to feel. ” By gosh, I deserve to feel this way because of what they did to me.”

That may very well be true, but when you feel negative emotions you only are hurting yourself in the long run.  Those negative emotions are stealing you of your moments and your life.   Living a life full of negativity puts you in a place that prevents you from looking up and “looking from above”.   It keeps you vibrating at lower frequencies and keeps pulling you back down like when someone grabs a helium balloon before it is out of reach on its way to the heavens.

Loneliness is like anger and bitterness, but rather than being directed explicitly outward, it is pulled inward.   It gives you reason to think, “no one likes me” and the like.   When you understand that we are all connected and that we can all have love for everyone and everything, you see that it is not possible for no one to like you.  Put yourself out there and let people like you and get to know you in the physical plane.

There are times when you may feel alone but you should quickly do something about it to replace those feelings with joy and happiness.   If you want to talk to your child, or grandchildren, do not wait for them but rather, pick up the latest gizmo and contact them.  It’s an amazing concept, but most communication devices work in both send AND receive modes.

When a love one passes over to the non-physical plane and you long for their company, it is understandable that you may feel alone and loneliness.  However, we would say that you should feel their presence with you helping you to find the strength that you need to do the things you need to do to keep on living a happy, joyful life.  Things may be different than they once were, but that is a given – nothing stays the same and the only constant is change.  Embrace the change and look at this as a new chapter in your life.  A life that your loved one most certainly wants you to enjoy and to keep living.

When you feel loneliness ask your loved ones that have passed to provide the energy and the guidance that you need to find joy and happiness.  Open up to the universe and to the world and you will see that they are truly guiding you to happiness and joy.

Loneliness can deplete your lifetime moments so that you may never see the world with happiness and joy.   Replace those feelings and take the initiative to find other people who want to connect with you.

Loneliness is a state of mind and is controlled by the ego.  Tell the ego, no, and make the connections that you have wanted and search for others wanting to make those connections as well.

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In this world where we are all connected, there are no “strangers” but rather “relatives” we have yet to meet!

Written Mon Nov 14, 2013, 7:57 – 8:19 AM