“Can you meet me in the middle?”

“Sure, I can do that.”

“Great, then you have a deal.”

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Sometimes in our relationships we need to meet the other person in the “middle.”  That means we all need to take a step towards the other person.  It could be a kind gesture, a gentle touch, or physically walking toward the other person.  When we “meet in the middle” we are saying that we take some of the responsibility as well, for whatever is going on in the relationship.

Like a negotiator who likes to give and take while working the other person to give and take as well, we sometimes need to do that in other areas of our lives.  When we only “take” and want others to “give” we are coming from a hardened outlook of the world.  Sometimes, we may feel that we are one hundred percentage “right” and the other person is completely at fault, and are not willing to take even one step in their direction.  Even though you may feel that way, we find it hard to believe that only one person is responsible for any “flare up” in a relationship.

That does not mean that someone’s hurtful actions, are the victim’s fault.  No, what we are saying is that relationships are about remaining “soft.”  Be soft and let the other person out of the corner that they may have backed themselves into.  Do not block their way, or “keep them down.”  Show a sign of love, and throw them a “life-line” when they are in need.   The same is true in all of your relationships.

When you see someone getting “beat up” at work for a mistake they may have made, help them out.  Throw them a genuine compliment, while tossing them a life-line to pull them to the boat.  Sometimes, we all just need a little nudge saying, “You’re okay.  You may have messed up, but I still love you.”  For those that think they never “mess up,” are probably the cause of most “rifts.”  Admit your mistakes, attempt to figure out an approach to not repeat those “mistakes” and move forward.

After all, there are no “mistakes.”  When we say the “wrong” thing, but come from a place of love, we did not make a “mistake.”  When we do the “wrong” thing, but come from a place of love, we make no “mistakes.”  To others, our actions and voice may be “wrong,” but sometimes it is up to them to reinterpret their belief system, so that they may see the intent is nothing but love.

Our belief systems, influence our reality.  Our reality in turn, influences and strengthens our beliefs.  Only you, can change that pattern, by altering your belief systems.  Once in a while it might make sense to clear your belief systems, so that you might be able to change your reality.

Take the time, to “wash away” your beliefs with regard to some or all of your relationships.  Do not assume you know the “hidden” meaning behind a statement.  Pretend you are meeting this person for the first time, and know nothing about them – that will help you keep an open mind during the dialogue.  Let go of the past impressions that have built a “model” of that person in your mind.  See the person for who they want to be, not who you think they are!

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When we open our minds and our hearts to let a person into our lives, we are freeing that person from the traps that we have built over the years.  Your partner chose you, and you chose them for a reason.  Do yourself a favor and rediscover those reasons each and every day!

Written, Thu, Sep 11, 2014  7:59 – 8:12 AM MT