“Why are you so angry?”

“Because he makes me so mad I can’t even see straight.”

“Take a deep breath and go sit quietly by yourself until you calm down.  You need to get control of yourself before you do something you regret.”

“Okay, maybe you are right.  I am pretty angry.”

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Anger is an emotion that like a toxic chemical, can change your life and the lives of others in an instant.  When not controlled, the need to satisfy that anger takes place in sometimes violent or destructive ways.   If you have instances where you are so angry you want to hurt someone or yourself, you have issues that you need to deal with.

Take a moment to isolate yourself.   Sit in a quiet room if possible.  Close your eyes, and take long deep breaths in, and longer breaths out.  Lower your heart rate and your blood pressure.  Keep the focus on a peaceful, calm scene.  Maybe you are fishing in the middle of a quiet pond with a sunset along the beach.  Find a visualization that takes you to a place where you can begin to let your mind overcome and regain control of your emotions.

When someone finds they cannot control their emotions in a way that affects their actions, they are acting in an uncontrolled way.  When the emotions take over the body’s actions you are may find yourself in a state of uncontrollable emotions often triggered by anger.

To help overcome these things, you may need to seek professional help.  You must understand that if you cannot control your actions with your own mind, you may end up doing things that you may regret which could have a devastating impact on your life or the lives of others.  Convince yourself that these outburst are not something that you care to see in your life.

When we are in a positive state of happiness, peace, and calm, it seems that things in our life have a tendency to go “well.”  When things are going well, it is much easier to maintain a state of peace and calm.  When we are in a state of peace and calm, our lives go much easier.  The two things reinforce each other.   Positive emotions produce positive outcomes.

Conversely, when we have negative emotions, such as anger, frustration and bitterness, those things are often followed by negative outcomes in our lives.  We may have lots of stress, and fears related to relationships and often times money.  That stress and fear then causes more frustration, anger , and negative emotions in our lives, which produces more negative outcomes.  The two work together to reinforce negative emotions and negative outcomes in our lives.

The momentum from these “spiraling” emotional and environment states, can be slow to change, but can be changed.  It all begins with thinking positive things.  Think about what it is you would like in your life.  Think about whether or not your current thoughts are likely to produce negative or positive outcomes in your environment.  Be an example to others on how you can maintain a state of peace and calm when others might see how you could be justified in your anger.

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Life is about learning from the events that occur on our journey.  When you learn to accept the lesson and graduate from it, you will find those “lessons” disappear from your environment.  The first step to acceptance, is forgiveness, and love.  Let go of the negativity in your life and watch the negative events disappear from your view of the world!

Written Mon, Oct 6, 2014 8:11 – 8:26 AM MT