The man sat in his favorite chair reflecting on his day.  He had in some ways, one of his most difficult days at work.  However, he realized that he need not carry that part of his day into the part of his day to enjoy with his family.   No, he decided that he would erase that part of his memory for the rest of the night.  He knows that his days with his children living under his roof are limited, and he refuses to let his “work day” interfere with the joy he enjoys with his family.

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Family time is an important “event” to enjoy.  It can come rather unexpected  or planned.   However, it seems that the spontaneous time spent with family and friends is sometimes the most fulfilling.

When we understand that we cannot expect to have an unlimited amount of time with a person, we begin to spend the time we have together a little more wisely.  We might let go of any old grudges or things that have come up in the past to focus on the present and the future together.  We might spend more of the conversation talking about deep topics, rather than the basic “chatter of the day” that consumes so many other relationships.

Life with others can be the most fulfilling part of this journey, and also the most frustrating.  Relationships with others can be easy at times, and very difficult at others.   The key to all of this, though, is to let the relationship by “easy,” and that is what it will become.  It’s when too much analysis and thought is placed on the relationship when it becomes difficult.

Suppose you are standing in line for some reason.  Maybe you are in line for over an hour.  Eventually, you might strike up a conversation with the people around you.  You might make them laugh, or tell each other stories.  After a while you might begin to enjoy the company of the people you have just met.  That is a “simple relationship.”  You all understand that most likely you will never see each other again, but you use the “waiting in line” commonality to connect and help pass the time.

Those types of relationships do not carry any “baggage”  or grudges.  The ego is not involved in trying to convince you why you should feel hurt or bitter.  No, the “relationship” is just a couple of people being cordial to each other and passing the time together.  That is how any relationship can become again, if we just let go of the need to “analyze” and evaluate the actions and behaviors of the other person.

Keep your life and your relationships “simple.”  That is, if someone says something that may have upset you, you can let go of the “upsetness” and think about whether or not you are looking for ways to be “hurt.”  It’s easy to simply ask the other person in a nice way the meaning of the gesture that has caused you angst. Usually, you will find that causing you “hurt” was not their intent.

Simplify your life by letting go of the need to be a victim.  Let the ego live without influence in your life.  Be strong and understand that living the role of the “victim,” is not a role that brings happiness and joy.  Be strong and “let go” to see the world while standing tall and feeling joy.

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If you feel you enjoy being the “victim” in your relationships, you might consider how many relationships will last long-term.  Let go of feeling the need to look for ways in which you were “hurt” and replace that with looking for ways in which you were “honored.”

Written Mon May 12, 2014 8:00 – 8:14 AM MT