First, let’s start with the theory of love.  What is love, and why do we care to have it as so much of our lives?  Love was created with the intention of providing a means of showing affection and belonging to one another as well as giving something that is intangible of ourselves to others.   It is a way to express the internal feeling that we have for other souls and beings.

Love is quite an emotion and one that has been studied for centuries.  It is also much of the topics for many songs and writings of great musicians and poets.  Love can cause so much happiness as well as sadness and heart-break.  Love is the thing that no amount of money can buy or produce from raw materials.  Love is neither here nor there. It is an emotion that exists in the non physical world between two or more non physical beings.

Love is the emotion that “makes the world go round”  Love is kind and sad.  Love is fun and frustrating.  Love is something that cannot be taken lightly .  Love is also something that cannot and will not allow itself to be ignored.  Love is the thing that brings people together, and can tear them apart.

It is trying to understand love that makes it so difficult to understand, for it is not to be understood, nor attempted to be understood.  Love is intended to be expressed, to be enjoyed, to be felt, but never to be understood.  Love is the emotion that is not to be understood, yet rather to be lived.

To be loved, and to love, is to live.  The “L’s” all work in unison.  Live/Love.  They go hand in hand.  You cannot have one without the other.  Love is like air, water, fire, and food.  You literally need it to survive.  You do not need to receive it, but you need to at least give it to others.  If you do not, you will wither on the vine like a grape and die.

Love is to be felt and acknowledged, and enjoyed, and lived, but never to be understood.  Much like water, air, and food, on how it energizes the physical body, love energizes and feeds the internal being within you.  That non physical part of you that is in fact you, needs love as nourishment.

Again, love is two directional.  You cannot just be a “taker” of love, or a “giver” of love, you must experience it both ways to truly nourish the soul.  Your soul.  That is what love is all about.

When you come to a situation in love. That is, you are going to be loving towards each and every soul that you encounter, you are in harmony with your inner self, and can truly live your life in happiness and joy.  When you come to a situation without love, then you merely exist in your physical body and are not in harmony with your soul  that will result in all of the negative emotions that you are trying to avoid, such as, frustration, anger, and hatred.  Those are the emotions, not of someone who comes with love.

Although, we know that coming in love, and giving love, and acceptance of others, because we come in love, is difficult.  It is a skill  that we must practice and master if we truly want to reach a harmonized state with our non physical self.

P: But how do we come in love with people who we may not care to be around?

You do not need to come in love for people who you would care not to be around, or people who you might find difficult to love.  That is because you will make an intention to attract only the people into your life that come to you in love and are accepting of your love.

When you make that intention and attract those people into your life, you will then be able to love all of the people who you interact with throughout your day, week, month, year and the remainder of your physical life.  You are attracting the people into your lives that have the same intention as you.

That is the thing about love, it is a mutual emotion.  One cannot experience it without the other.  However, if you put out love to everyone that you encounter, and they do not accept your love, and do not reflect your love, you are still okay, because you are not reflecting their negative emotions back to them.  And thus, you are not receiving those emotions within you.

You will receive the emotions that you broadcast.  You will receive the emotions that you broadcast.  If you broadcast anger, that is what you will receive.  That is by the law of attraction, you must receive anger back to you.

So, if you always broadcast love, by the law of attraction that is all that you can and will receive.  Therefore, your original question is a contradiction.  You cannot receive an emotion that you do not broadcast.  Therefore, you do not need to ask the question about not being able to love certain people, because if that is all you have inside of yourself, then that is the only thing that you can do.  You cannot be angry toward another person, if all you have to broadcast is love.  Unfortunately, the converse is also true, and people cannot love, when all they have inside of them is anger and frustration and hatred.

Story – Sunrise on a Cruise

This is a story about a man who went on a boat ride with lots of people that he did not know.  He was excited to set sail for he had never been on a boat before in his life.  The boat lifted anchor and backed out of the pier and into the harbor.  When the boat turned around and set sail for the open water, the man turned to the young lady standing next to him to introduce himself and make small talk.

The young lady, smiled nicely  introduced herself and shook his hand firmly.  The man was excited to see the skyline of the city as the boat moved farther and farther out to sea.  The young lady bid her ado and left to see the view on the other side of the ship.  The man, disappointed as he was, chose to follow her to the other side.  The lady turned to see the man standing once again next to her.

Her smiled turned sour and she made a kind gesture to the man, but did not make much more small talk.  The man, took this as a polite brush off, and quickly found another part of the rail to lean against.  He thought that the lady might want to be left alone, or that maybe she wasn’t interested in him.  That was okay, for the man just wanted to experience the open water, the beautiful views, and the wind in his hair, with the fresh smell of the sea.  He did not come on this cruise to meet anyone, but did not eliminate that as a  possibility should someone interesting come along.

The next day, the man was up early so that he could see the sunrise, and went to the top of the ship to get a better view of the horizon.  He heard some whimpering in the distance, and looked over to see the young lady he had met the day before sitting in a chair with her back to the sunrise crying.

He went over to her, and asked if she was okay.  She looked up to him, and saw his look of concern and said that she thought she could be okay, but was feeling pretty bad inside.  The man asked if she wanted him to stay, and she obliged.  He sat next to her, and sat with her, not saying a word, but being there for her while gazing into the sunrise, appreciating its beauty.

After many minutes passed by, the lady looked at the man, to see his happiness and stared, too, off into the horizon at the beautiful sunrise.  After much silence, the woman finally turned to the man to speak.  “How come I couldn’t find  a man like you, when I was looking?”  The man replied, “what are you talking about, you barely know me?”  The woman went on to tell him how her husband had cheated on her and she came on the cruise to get away and forget about him.  But everywhere she turned, she saw couples and families together and it only reminded herself more of him and her mistake in marrying him.

The man, did not say a word, he only listened.  Then she repeated herself again, and said that he seemed like  a nice man, and she wished that she had met him before her husband so that she might not have made that terrible mistake in her life.  The mistake of marrying a man that did not love her, and cheated on her.

The man, carefully chose his words, and then said, ” you did in fact find me first.”  The woman  looked confused, and then the man continued,  “I am the man that you first married.  For if you would have met me first, you would have, too, married a man that did not love you the way you loved him.”

“That is because, you have no idea who I am, and yet, you make a comment like that.  Thinking that because I was polite and friendly, that I love you, or would be able to reciprocate the love that you think you have for me.”

“I too, came on this cruise to forget someone.  I came to forget my wife who recently died.  We used to come on cruises together and get up early to watch the sunrise, all bundled up in blankets on the top deck of the ship.  I came here today, so that we could do that again.  You see, she has only left me in the physical, but is with me each and every day in my heart, my memories, and my mind. ”

“I could never love you as much as I loved her, at least, not until I spent lots and lots of time with you could I even have a chance of that much love.  However, you are so quick to jump to conclusions of loving another person more than your husband because of how he hurt you, you do not see that.”

“Your husband hurt you so much, because you loved him so.  If you did not love him, you would be able to easily forget about him.  But because of that love, you find it difficult to forget even though he has pained you so.  Do not make the same mistake twice.  Do not love someone without knowing in your heart that they love you back, the same.  That is the secret to having a loving, long relationship.  Equal love.  If it’s out of balance, it can never work.”

“I know that now, I do not love you like my wife, but I also know that someday I will meet someone who I love as much as my wife, and I know that my wife wants me to meet that someone.  I also know, that you could be that person, but it’s much to early to tell.  However, if you would like to meet me here each morning to watch the sunrise, maybe we both can figure out together if there is the potential for this mutual love, and see where things go.”

“I would like that very much,” she said.

And so, they met each morning for the next six days, and watched the sunrise together.  After the cruise, they parted ways, never to see each other again.  The woman, went back to her life, knowing that love is not something  you can make happen.  Much like how you cannot make a flower grow faster.  The man, also went back to his life, knowing that he has much love to give, waiting for it to come to him, while feeling secure in the love that he had and still has for his wife.

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Love is a not a game that is to be played with the roll of a dice.  It is a long process that much like the growth of a forest, takes time, and must proceed at the rate that nature allows.  Sometimes, love is quick, and sometimes, love is slow.  Sometimes, love is loud, and sometimes, love is quiet.  Sometimes love is great, and sometimes love is good.  But love is something that can never be extinguished if we are to live.  Love is the nourishment of our soul and the lifeblood of our bodies.  Without it, we cannot survive.

Written Sep 14, 2007