When relationships are built on love, the people involved in the relationship provide support for one another.  While encouraging each other to be their own person and to pursue their passions, there can sometimes be difficulties.  Sometimes, it is difficult to encourage your mate to pursue their passions when it may conflict with the pursuit of your own passions.  However, when the relationship is built on love, it is assumed that the passions can co-exist.

That is, rather than trying to figure out how your mate’s changes in their life might affect you, a relationship built on love, with the union of two inner-selves, need not worry about  those things.  When you are joined at the non-physical level, you begin to understand that each other’s pursuits only benefit that union.  You begin to “let go” of the ego and the pursuit of your own interests, because you understand that what is good for my mate, is good for the union.

It’s when the ego enters the relationship that things start to get disconcerting.  That is when we start to question how one’s actions and behaviors might affect “me.”   When we leave the ego behind, we quit asking those questions, and ask, “how may I help?”  However, this does not imply that you give up your own pursuits.  When the relationship is based in love, the support that your mate provides is reflected back to him or her.  Again, there is no question about supporting one another – it is a natural occurrence.

So, we might ask, how does one get their relationship to be without ego and entrenched only in love?  That is a difficult thing to do, given the human body in the physical world presents many challenges.   What you might do, is begin to understand how relationships in love behave and start to mimic it in your own relationship.

You might start with the question, “where can I provide more support for my mate?”  Other questions might be, “how can I help them get through some of their struggles?”  The questions we need to quit asking deal with how you can get your mate to do what you want, or how you can get your mate to help you in your pursuits.   These questions arise from the ego, and not from a relationship of love.

Take some time to reflect on the prior 24 hours.  Look at the interactions with your mate.  How did you behave?  How did he or she behave towards you?   Did they reflect back the behaviors that you presented to them?  Now ask yourself if you are encouraging or inhibiting your mate?  Be honest.  If it is the latter, you need to make changes.  There is always room for growth in everything that you do.

We need to encourage, support, and truly embrace the pursuits of our mate.  When we begin to do that, it will be reflected back to you.  It is then that your relationship can be one entrenched in love.  Let go of the need to control, and to change your mate.  Let go of the desire to even want to control and modify your mate.  Trust their passions, are in fact their passions.  Leave your own ego out of it.  It is then that you will see what you give to your mate is reflected back to you.  That is true of the world at large.

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Relationships entrenched in love, have no room for ego.  Relationships entrenched in ego have no room for love.  The decision is yours and yours alone, for whatever you give to the relationship is what is going to bounce right back to you!

Written Fri, Aug 15, 2014, 8:07 – 8:20 AM MT