“How do you know that anyone cares?”

“I don’t.”

“Then why do you do it?”

“Because I care.”

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When you feel strong about something, it does not matter what others think.  It does not matter if you receive the probably well-deserved accolades.  What matters is that you know that whatever it is you are doing is coming from a place of integrity and love.  What matters is not the recognition, but the work.  What matters is not the praise, but the love.  What matters is you!

So many times we get caught up in what other people think about us, or our work.  An artist knows deep down that their creations are either something they like or feel there is room for improvement.  When the artist has the inner knowing of satisfaction with their work, there is no need to get validation from others.  The work, and the intent is all that is necessary.  Everything else, is just another way to feed the ego.

The “unsung hero” is one that does the work necessary without looking for recognition.  The “unknown hero” is one who does the work necessary without providing their identity.  When we truly care about the “what” and accomplishing the things will feel are necessary, we feel no need to hang around for recognition.  Often times, that recognition never comes anyway!

Think about what is important in your life.  Is it important that you “help others” that need a hand?  If so, is it important that they know it was you who helped them, or just the fact that they were given a lift?  The outcome might be what’s important, and the praise and validation is secondary.  When it’s not about you, there is no need for validations and praises.

Today is a great day to look around for areas where you are seeking validation.  Ask yourself why that is the case, and take ownership of any answers you receive.  Then have a conversation with your ego and begin to see what is truly important.  Eventually, you may see that validation is a sort of “payment” for your “charitable work” and is unnecessary.

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When we love someone, we like to do good things for them.  It’s when we start to want payment in the form of validation, that those “good deeds” become selfish.

Written, Mon, Jan 25, 2016 8:15 – 8:23 AM MST