A young boy, asked the wise man, “what is it that makes you so wise?”

The wise man pondered in silence before he replied, “I seldom speak, and listen always.”

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We live in a world where everyone is vying for your attention.  It seems that sometimes in order to be heard, we need to be loud enough to exceed the noise.  Sometimes when we find a “wise man or woman who will listen, we speak always, and seldom listen.

It is understandable why this is the case.  There is seldom an opportunity to present yourself to someone who actually listens.   Life is busy.  Everyone has “things” going on in their own life, which leaves little time for listening.   However, as you grow you begin to understand that “being heard” is not what life is about.  No, it is quite the opposite.

When we have a desire to be heard, we are feeding our ego.  Yes, it is important to be able to “voice yourself.”  The issue can become one of a sort of obsession with “being heard.”  We were not put in this body to tell everyone what it is they are to be doing.  No, we came into this lifetime for various reasons, one of which is often to connect with others.

So, what does it mean to “connect” with another?  No, we are not implying that it is about listening and never contributing to the conversation.  Rather, it is about “balance.”  When you are in a one-on-one relationship it is important that both of you carry your end of the conversation.  However, much like a playground see-saw, you need to have balance or it is not very satisfying.

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Look around today at your relationships and objectively look for how you – not the other person – can achieve more balance.  Look at what it is you can do, to help connect and grow the relationship.  Just like the see-saw, you may need to continually adjust yourself to rebalance!

Written, Fri, Feb 6, 2015 8:10 – 8:18 AM MST