Many times a person thinks that they need to be correct in all areas of their life.  That is, the need to be “right.”  For example, a man feels the need to correct his wife when he thinks she gets a minor detail wrong when telling the story of how they first met.  We ask the question, what makes you think that you are right in the first place?

Giving up the need to be “right” has been talked and written about by many people throughout the years.  However, it seems to get forgotten and people sometimes need a reminder to let things go.   The need to be right is also tied to the ego, for it feeds the ego which thinks that you know all of the answers, that you know best, etc.   The ego loves to prey on people who actually agree with it into thinking they know what really happened, when others have a different view of a particular event, such as the day two people met.

Remember, even if you think you really know what happened, that your view of the world is coming from your belief system and experiences, while someone else’s view of the world is coming from their belief system and their experiences.   That means that you both may have different accounts of an event, and you both may in fact be correct!   This is a phenomena that police officers often see when interviewing eye witnesses about an accident or a crime.  People see things differently and think that what they saw is the truth, but the reality is most people only see what they think they see.

Think about a movie or television show that you watched for a second time.  Often times we see things that we missed the first go around.  Do you ever wonder how you missed something that seemed so important to the movie?  Maybe your mind drifted off, or you were distracted with some other character or part of the movie scene.  Just think, that is a movie where a director is guiding you into the scene and developing the characters to get the writer’s point across to you.   Now think about the world at large, where the director may be your inner self, or possibly your ego.   Now think of everyone walking the Earth and how they each have their own director.  It’s no wonder we all see things differently.  First off, there is far too much information to observe and take in, and secondly, we are all focusing our attention on different things.

Think about when you are at a party and you introduce yourself to someone you’ve never met.  How many times do you say your name, reach your hand out to shake their hand while they say their name, and then you totally forget the other person’s name?   Why do you suppose that is?  Most likely it’s because you are focusing your attention somewhere else, like their physical features, the shoes they are wearing, or the way they shake your hand.  Then you might be wondering if you’ve met before or how they know the host of the party.   All of these things are overwhelming your senses when they say their name, and that is maybe heard by you, but is not “anchored” into your mind.    You are not consciously taking a “snapshot” of the person’s name to bring it into your memory.

There is nothing wrong with all of this, we are merely pointing out how you may get things wrong when you are the only observer of an event.  As such, how can you be so certain that your mate is wrong when they are explaining the day you first met?  Let go, the need to be right and understand that it’s all okay, no matter who is “right” and who is “less right.”

The ego is very powerful, and if you find that the ego is in fact the “director of your life” you may wish to fire your director and pick your non-physical self to guide you.  We cannot go through life to gain an awareness of our consciousness and enlightenment when we are too concerned about whether our socks match our sweater, because our “director” says that is what is important.

Find out what is important to you. Dig deep inside and listen to yourself.   We are not saying that having socks that match your sweater is a bad thing, we are simply saying that is an area where you might not place most of your focus.  The world is a big place, and your mind and senses are constantly being overwhelmed.  What is it that you are missing?  Sometimes you know, because you instantly forget a name, but what else is out there that you pass by every day and do not notice?

Maybe it’s a child asking for attention, or a mate that is unhappy with your relationship, or a child excited about their day.   Pay attention to the director within you to see these things and to prioritize your attention mechanism.

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Your attention is a very limited resource when using the mechanisms available to your physical body.  See the world in a new light, and see ALL of it, by using your non-physical “eyes and ears.”

Written Nov 17, 2013