Evening is a good time to reflect on the events and happenings of the day.  It is also a good time to let down and begin to retire for the night.  Evenings are also good to reflect on the good things and the things that you would have liked to do better.  For instance, did you like the way you reacted in various situations throughout the day?  Usually, people do not have days where they can say that they like the way they behaved 100% of the time.

Sometimes, our days do not go the way we would like, at least, not the part that we can control, namely our emotions.  Did we respond with the emotions that come from love, or from our ego?  Did we bring joy and love to the world, or anger and frustration?

Reflect on how your day went, so that you can identify situations and events that you performed well, with positive emotions, as well, as events and situations that gave you a negative emotion.  Then figure out what you could have done differently to flip that negative emotion to a positive one.  This technique will help you look at these events as an observer, who is removed from the situation.  It will also help you come in contact with the “observer” that is in the non-physical part of who you are.

The Story of the First Kiss

There once was a boy and a girl who sat on a park bench.  The boy asked the girl if she wanted a kiss.  The girl thought about it for a second and decided that a kiss would be nice.  She said, “yes, I would like a kiss”.  The boy grew a big smile on his face, and leaned over ever so carefully to kiss the girl.  The girl turned her head ever so slightly as the boy leaned into to her.  Their lips touched, and the energy between the two people exploded inside each of them.  As quickly as the lips touched, they separated.  The boy and the girl leaned back, both smiling with enthusiasm.  They each had sparkles in their eyes, and a smile on their face.

The girl asked the boy, “Have you ever done that before?”  The boy replied, “No, I didn’t know what to expect.”  The girls asked, “Was it what you thought it would be?”  the boy answered, “No, it was much, much better.”

“What made it so nice?” asked the girl.  “I don’t know, maybe it’s because we have never done that before.”

“Yup, I suppose when you get older, it’s no big deal, and doesn’t feel like that.”

“Ya, I suppose so.” said the boy.

“Did you see stars?” asked the girl.

“Is that what those were?” replied the boy.

“Yes, I think so.”

“Well then, yes, I saw stars, and rainbows and lots of other fireworks.”

“Me, too , ” said the girl.

The boy asked, “Do you want to do it again?”

The girl replied, “No, I don’t want to ruin this moment, in case, it’s not as good.”

“Ya, that’s a good idea.” said the boy.

Years later, the married couple sat on a park bench.

The man turned to his wife, and said, “Do you want to kiss?”

The wife, said, “Sure, I’d love a kiss.”

The man leaned into the woman, and their lips touched ever so gently.

When they finished, the man and the woman looked at each other, with a smile on their face.

The man said, “How was that?”

The woman, replied, “Just like the first time.”

Then they held hands and watched the birds.

The man then said, “I liked the first time, but each time after that was better than the one prior.”

“Yes, and to think we didn’t want to try again, because we thought it would only get worse.”

“Ya, we didn’t know what we were missing, did we?”

“Nope, but we soon figured it out.”

“I guess, after fifty years of marriage, thinks just keep getting better and better.” said the husband.

Then the wife put her head on his shoulder and he put his arm around her.  They sat there gazing at the birds and the sunset just like they’ve done for over fifty years together.

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You see, the boy and the girl exchanged love and joy together when they were young, and they were smart enough to know that they might not appreciate the connection they’ve made if they kissed too often.

When they were later married, they realized that the kisses can continue to get better, because the love that the husband and wife shared, only grew stronger and stronger. They also knew that it was up to them, to decide if they would take each other for granted.  They knew that as they grew older, each kiss might be their last, and thus, it was always better than the kiss prior.  They knew that their time together in the physical plane is limited and that they need to enjoy each moment, each kiss, each stroke of the hair, as much as they possibly could.  They grew mature enough to understand that nothing in life should be taken for granted, and especially , not each other.

Make sure you do not take anything for granted, when it comes to a relationship.  Make sure that each kiss with your wife is the best one yet.  Make sure that each day is better than the previous one, that each moment is better than the one before.  In the past, we talked about moments and how we have to appreciate each one, and how important it is not to always try to do better than before.  That is not what we’re talking about here.  We are talking about making the conscious decision to have a good day.  To have a good hour at lunch.  To have a good meeting with the boss, etc., etc.  We are talking about the fact that it is your choice on whether or not that kiss will be better than the one before it.  Whether or not this day will be a day that you live with positive emotions and joy.  That is what we mean when we say, “better” than the one prior.

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Tomorrow is another day, how you live it is up to you.  However, how you live the rest of this day is a decision that you can make right now.  And that decision will carry over to the next day, and the next, until you live your final day.

Written Mon Feb 16, 2009,  8:26-8:45 PM

Pat’s Note:  Two days ago, was Valentine’s day, which seems fitting for this story.