Do you ever wonder why you feel like there is so much “drama” in your life?  It seems that nearly every day you are dealing with some event that many refer to as having drama.  Do you sometimes wonder what will happen today to create the so-called drama?

The concept of “drama” is a pretty simple one.  Yes, there are events that occur in everyone’s lives that can be pretty substantial.  For example, the death of a loved one, a break-up of a relationship, etc.  However, for many, the “dramatic events” turn into things like, “why didn’t you hang up your jacket?”  or “who is going to go to get the groceries?”

The “dramatic events” might occur in your relationships at home, at work, and at the community at large with people you have not even met.  These “events” are seemingly “little,” but escalate to become a “dramatic event.”  When we do that, we are letting ourselves get emotionally involved with an attachment to the need to be “right.”   We are convinced that it is our duty to convince another that they were in the “wrong” and our behaviors are justified.

This can happen on the drive to work, where you feel another driver did you an injustice.   You can simply ignore their behaviors, but many times we feel the need to let the other driver know that what they did or what you did was justified.   Instead of taking a deep breath and moving forward with our day, we engage in the honking of horns, waving of fists, and anger looks.  We let our blood pressure rise, and the tensions latch onto our muscles.   The back pain begins to throb, but we continue on our pursuit of being right.

At home, we may have a need to express our opinions on how things should be done, to our mate.  In that process, we escalate the situation to a point where we are both angry with tense bodies and disturbed minds.  We think that we are “working through” issues, but that is not possible when there is an attachment to being “right.”  The “drama” ensues, and we think that it is a natural occurrence in all relationships.

However, having “drama” in your life, with the exception of the truly life-changing events for which we spoke, is a creation by you to extend your believes on another, including yourself.  Sometimes people thrive on drama for it makes them feel justified in their behaviors.  When we have “so much going on” it helps us ignore other areas where we prefer not to look.  When we create the “drama” in our lives, it gives us permission to dominate conversations, and dictate others.   After all, who would tell us otherwise when they do not have such “drama” in their life?

The bottom line, is these “created dramatic events” are in fact created by you to somehow benefit and feed your ego.  The “drama” in your life is created by you and only you!  If you want to get rid of the “drama” make a conscious decision to put it behind you.  After you truly understand why you are creating the drama in your life and in your relationships you will see why it is no longer necessary.   You will also see that “drama” is never necessary.  It is created to help benefit you in some way.

When another person attempts to create drama in the relationship, it can stop at that person.  There is no need to engage and take on the “drama” yourself.  When that person honks his horn and waves his fist, you can let it pass you by, while letting them pass by you on the road as well.  Stay in your “happy space” and continue as though nothing happened.  After all, only you can give another permission to remove you from your “happy space.”

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Drama is created by you, to some how benefit and feed your ego.  Let go of the thought that drama is a necessary occurrence in your life, and you will release it from your life!

Written Wed, August 27, 7:54 – 8:09 AM MT