Do you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is questioning you?  That is, he or she doesn’t believe what you are saying to be true, or they disagree with you, even though you know in your heart it’s your truth?

As we walk this life’s journey there will be many times when someone will not believe what we say or do.  There are many times when we have choices to make on how to handle such situations.  We can sit quietly and let the other person refute what we are saying and simply let the conversation pass by, while knowing what we know and not finding the need to convince anyone.

That technique certainly works in many situations to avoid unnecessary conflict, especially with someone who seems intent on stirring up conflict.  Another technique is to face the conflict and to stand your ground.  Again, there is a time for this as well.  Typically, in situations where the outcome has an effect on you or your family’s well-being.

So, how should one handle these sort of “disagreements” when the outcome matters somewhat, but not to the extent of affecting your well-being?  Should a person sit back and let another more vocal person “steam roller” them?

Well, of course, the answer depends.  Whatever you choose to do is the right decision so long as it does not come from a place of the ego.  How do you know if you are coming from the ego?  A good way to determine how you are reacting is by checking your emotional state.  Are you getting angry and irritated?  If so, that most likely is your ego.  Are you staying in a centered place of peace and calm?  If so, you are coming from your inner-truth.

It’s okay, and often times recommended to stand your ground when you are coming from a place of inner-truth.  It’s not about being “right” and proving the other “wrong.”  No, it’s more about standing up for yourself.  About taking back your energy and “power” that another might be trying to assert over you.  It’s about letting yourself know that “I matter.”

When we know that we matter in this world, we live a bit differently.  We begin to have confidence in our decisions and the choices that we make constantly throughout our days.  We begin to believe in ourselves.  We lift our heads a bit higher and we begin to admire ourselves.

When we let others dominate the conversation, or the “opinion of the day,” while dismissing us, and our opinions of the day, we are chipping away bit by bit at our own self-esteem.  It’s not about what the other person is doing or saying.  No, it’s about the messages we are sending to ourselves when we do not engage and take back our energy and our power.

Observe yourself as you go about this day.  Pay attention to times when you let yourself sit silently to avoid conflict.  Again, there are many times when that is the best approach.  Now, observe yourself where you are sitting quietly in order to avoid conflict with a more dominating person.  Maybe today is the day for which you find your voice!

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Walking the journey of life is often times a delicate balance.  However, when your actions come from a place of love, you are always on the right path!

Written, Tue, Aug 23, 2016, 7:14 – 7:26 AM MDT