Remember your childhood when you might play “make-believe?”  You would maybe dress up like a princess, or pretend you were making the winning catch in the big game.  Somehow, over the years we quit “pretending” and the so-called reality sinks in.

We are here to tell you that you can “pretend” again, and play “make-believe” to help you get a grasp of the life that you could have.  Maybe you pretend you are going to your dream job.  What does that dream job look like?  Or you pretend you are going to your child’s sporting event, when you are not yet in a romantic relationship.

When we can begin to visualize our lives the way we think we would like it to go, we begin to understand where it is we might like to go.  When we have a better understanding of these things, we can set beacons that give us a destination.  When we have the destination, we can begin to set our “next step” no matter how small that step may be.

It is no secret that when you visualize and put your energy towards something, that the universal flow of energy will help bring that to you.  However, you must move through the world with integrity and for the higher good of all.  So long as your desires are in sync with those things, the universe will help guide you to your beacons.

We have talked in the past about how competition can spoil the delight of children by taking away the “fun” in sports and game playing.  When you set your beacons and visualize your “pretend world” make sure that it does not involve you “beating out” anyone else for the “prize.”  We need to understand that our objectives should not imply that another person needs to “lose out.”

Young children love to win, and that is perfectly okay.  However, it’s when usually adults step in to formalize the game that the winning turns into an obsession, and the “friendly game” becomes a “battle.”  The same goes for learning.  When we begin to pressure our children so much to get “good grades” and to “do well in school” we begin to put the emphasis on the letter they receive rather than the knowledge they acquire.

We understand that the schools and colleges put emphasis on grades and test scores.  Unfortunately, that is the “game” that the students and parents must play.  However, when your child tries their best and receives a lower score than they wanted, or rather, you wanted, you might think about talking about what they learned.  That might send a signal to a child that school is more about learning than achieving a high mark.

When your child continues on his path to academics, he might someday realize that the grades were only someone’s indication of how much he learned, but not a true indication of what was learned.  That may be uncovered later in life outside of the schools when the child is applying that knowledge in his career.

Life is not about winning, or achieving top grades.  Life is about the learning that takes place while playing the “games.”  Remember that, if you are through your schooling and years of playing sports.   What did you learn in your youth?  We’ll bet it wasn’t about the final score of one of the games.

Teach your children about the things that go unnoticed by society.  The ‘C’ student learned things in the class that the ‘A’ students may have missed.  The athlete who didn’t set foot on the playing field may have learned more about life than the star player.  Sometimes, we learn the most when we are flying “under the radar” of society.

Look around today, and see where you are still playing the “game” and keeping the “score.”  Let go of these things, and focus on what your “pretend world” might look like.  That way, you can create said “pretend world.”  For what you believe and think about becomes your reality.

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Let go of the “game playing” and the “score keeping” and open your eyes to the world the way you would like to see it.

Written Fri, Apr 25, 2014, 8:06 – 8:20 AM MT